I worked hard on my foreign consignment I had to cancel because of COVID-19… such a big disappointment!
There are more significant issues to deal with right now than this.
COVID-19, while wreaking havoc with the anticipated event, also given us opportunities to slow down our processes and rethink.
All the things, right from wedding plans to job promotion, vacations, graduations, retirement plans, trips, new jobs, etc., came to a grinding halt, and have been scrapped altogether; managing these dramatic changes inevitably stirs uploads of emotional and logistical challenges.
Let’s feel those feelings. It’s the best of intentions to say, “I’m devastated that my trip was canceled, but was that as important as someone canceling their wedding or life-long job.”
Believe me; it’s OK to be upset, it’s out feeling, we should express it even if others have it worse; sometimes, actively grieving your loss can be of great help.
The best bet to express this to make a list of what you’ve had to let go – be it financial gains, tangible things, experiential goals, foreign trips or else; allow yourself to sift through all the losses of your life, just release all that anger, sadness, frustration, all those expressions are absolutely appropriate.
And finally, look over your list and highlight those things you’d like to rebuild and relived when the time comes. Like, if you still dream of a big wedding, a career change, or something else, commit to pursuing these things once the dust settles. Things get “paused,” it’s your commitment to keeping the hope alive for the future.
The sudden shake-up of the world has impacted so many people in so many ways. For example, some have remained secure; many have been devastated by the variety of losses, like loss of family members, financial security, or else.
If you also want to feel like one of the lucky ones, it’s fine to have gratitude with a touch of guilt.
Guilt often deserve blame for something, so first, make up your mind that your good fortune is not due to the struggles of others; thus, it’s best to offer humility and compassion to your friends who are in need. For example, let them know you’re there and offer a sense of normalcy by treating them the way wanted to be treated.
One of the side effects of guilt is the impulse to downplay your motivation, positivism, and optimism, make efforts not to do this; it’s obviously not a time to brag, so stay connected to what’s going well, so that you can help others.
I’m harboring anger toward family and friends about everything. How do I deal with it?
There’s nothing like a pandemic to set your focus and put a spotlight on polarizing topics, in such a situation, like the boredom, pressure of a global crisis, etc., even small arguments around a dining table have gotten extra heated.
Such divides cause resentment to your loved ones; here are a few things to consider.
Get specific about what’s irritate you the most, and then leave the place when that topic comes in between any other discussion; you can also try to change the topic or remain ignorant rather than get panic and give yourself an unwanted gift of anxiety.
If someone’s actions impact your health, like refusing to socially distance, putting them in place sooner rather than later, you can limit frustration.
Add to that, try to set the expectation that you’re most comfortable with, like go for remote meetups for the time being; you can share with them that you aren’t judging their choices, but keeping away to minimize your stress, anxiety until things calm down.
Do you know what the silver lining in this pandemic?
Keep your pace as slow as the world is moving, and start getting the advantages out of the slow life.
Don’t know how to do this?
Start finding unexpected joys in slowing down, like have dinners with family, play board games, try new recipes, reaching out to loved ones, make phone calls with old friends, and start at-home workouts.
What can you do to stick to these benefits?
Write them down, like all the activities you’ve enjoyed during this time; once you have the list, make specific plans according and put them into your calendar – for making some more memories.
This way, you will feel less bored and more energetic.
Finally, don’t forget we have to be as patient as we could during this pandemic and prioritize what matters the most – the more priority and intention you give to something, the more likely it ‘ll become part of your routine.
I am feeling a bit helpless with where to chip-in…
Simply make two columns – “restrictions” and “strengths” fill in the “restrictions” first so you can quickly eliminate things that may put you and your mental health at risk. Next, move to the “strengths” column. Think big this time, write challenging yet achievable tasks, as most of us have more strengths than we give ourselves credit for!
We would love to hear things, activities, thoughts, and else, that is helping you manage your stress and anxiety in this time of uncertainty and panic, feel free to share in the comment section below.